Marriage and the Family in the Middle Ages by Frances Gies and Joseph Gies


Goodreads: Marriage and the Family in the Middle Ages
Series: None
Source: Purchased
Published: 1989

Official Summary

Throughout history, the significance of the family—the basic social unit—has been vital. In Marriage and the Family in the Middle Ages, acclaimed historians Frances and Joseph Gies trace the development of marriage and the family from the medieval era to early modern times. It describes how the Roman and barbarian cultural streams merged under the influence of the Christian church to forge new concepts, customs, laws, and practices. Century by century, the Gies follow the development—sometimes gradual, at other times revolutionary—of significant components in the history of the family including:

  • The basic functions of the family as a production unit, as well as its religious, social, judicial, and educational roles.
  • The shift of marriage from private arrangement between families to public ceremony between individuals, and the adjustments in dowry, bride-price, and counter-dowry.
  • The development of consanguinity rules and incest taboos in church law and lay custom.
  • The peasant family in its varying condition of being free or unfree, poor, middling, or rich.
  • The aristocratic estate, the problem of the younger son, and the disinheritance of daughters.
  • The Black Death and its long-term effects on the family.
  • Sex attitudes and customs: the effects of variations in age of men and women at marriage.
  • The changing physical environment of noble, peasant, and urban families.
  • Arrangements by families for old age and retirement.

Expertly researched, master historians Frances and Joseph Gies—whose books were used by George R.R. Martin in his research for Game of Thrones—paint a compelling, detailed portrait of family life and social customs in one of the most riveting eras in history.

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Although I studied medieval literature in grad school, I always felt a bit shaky on some aspects of actual medieval history since I tended to gather that type of information less directly (i.e. reading articles about medieval literature that referenced historical matters rather than reading sources actually about history). Marriage and the Family Life is an engaging and approachable overview of life in the Middle Ages, covering the full time period and geographic areas in England and on the Continent, including France, Spain, Italy, etc. I wish I’d read this earlier to get a digestible sense of how customs and philosophies about marriage, inheritance, family living situations, children, and more were approached during these 1000 years.

I don’t think one actually has to have an academic interest in the Middle Ages to find this book interesting. The book jacket makes much use of the fact that George R. R. Martin has said he’s read the authors’ works to aid in his writing, and I do think the book is very readable and would make sense to anyone who would like to learn more about the topic.

The authors do open with a literature review of various other books/articles that had previously covered these topics, but one can safely skip that if they have no use for it and get on to actually reading about the marriage and the family. In the main body of the text, little stories and examples are scattered throughout to liven up the information.

The book goes in chronological order, and it gives a great sense of how things changed over time. (Interestingly, women had fewer rights in terms of divorce and inheritance in the Late Middle Ages than they did in the Early Middle Ages! So much for progress, I guess.) So readers can get a sense of things like how the Church or the Black Plague influenced marriage and the family, as well.

The one “failing” is that the book IS an overview, so often it would mention something I found interesting and wanted to know more about but move on without fully elaborating. Obviously, I can look up more on my own, of course.

If you’re interested in the Middle Ages, I would highly recommend this. I hope to check out the authors’ other books on life in the medieval village and life in the medieval city sometime for some more overviews.

4 stars

12 thoughts on “Marriage and the Family in the Middle Ages by Frances Gies and Joseph Gies

  1. Jackie B @ Death by Tsundoku says:

    It’s fascinating to me that this book identifies GRRM as a reader and demi-scholar of this text in the jacket. Do we believe this will cause the book to sell more? I’m so intrigued by this. I’ve never seen such a thing on a jacket before!

    I’m shocked your degree didn’t really ask you to explore Medieval history more. Perhaps they made the assumption you were already fluent?

    For the topics that felt cut short, did the authors provide additional resources to learn more? Or is this truly an overview?

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    • Briana | Pages Unbound says:

      I thought that was funny, too! “GRRM bought this, so you should too.” lol And I can’t think of a comparable book jacket either. I’ve never seen, “Emma Watson read this book,” or anything!

      I was honestly always baffled by the idea I didn’t have to take a medieval history course. I maybe could have tried on my own, but it’s tough when there are so many classes you actually *have* to take!

      I’m sure there were footnotes and entries in the bibliography! That’s a good point, and I should look into them sometime!

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